User Manual

Goals

I want to work to live rather than live to work… and yes, I’m willing to work 80 hours a week in order to avoid working 40 hours a week.

My business is starting. For the foreseeable time, I’ll be concentrating on giving people the best training I can and helping them to reach their physical and health goals… of course with the side-effect that the business also runs financially successfully.

Myself

I am a relaxed and open person who does not need constant attention from any one person. I am a clear and assertive extrovert, very much enjoying attention from multiple people – not necessarily all at the same time. Whenever I take a Myers-Briggs personality test, I am always very assertive extrovert, but depending on my mood, I may switch N/S and J/P. Overall though, I tend towards being a Protagonist.

personality

My Love Language is primarily physical touch with quality time and words of affirmation coming up close behind.

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Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.

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Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality Time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.

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Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.

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Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly.

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Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.

 

I bring calm and unconventionality with me – and I have been told – a degree of wisdom (though I am still childishly positive and naive at times).

I can offer a rational viewpoint to your own life – a viewpoint from many cultures and experiences. There is little objective truth or correctness about any culture. Perhaps I can expand your perspectives and you mine.

I like to move my body and be physically dynamic. I love the outdoors and especially mountains, lakes and seas. I love reactive, fast sports, especially those with full-body coordination like martial arts and dancing.

I have no traditional identity. Culturally, nationally, politically or socially, I pick what I like from each and mix it in to my own brand. I’m like fusion food in human form… except tastier.

Limits

I currently and for the foreseeable future have little free time or money. Even if you live next door, I cannot offer very frequent (daily or bi-daily) contact as a time commitment. Some flexibility is required with regularity of meeting up.

I need to feel independent and in control of my own life. I do not want enmeshment of finances, living space or any of the relationship escalator style co-dependency that is the norm. I need you to want me but not need me.

Although I’ve experimented, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m disappointingly vanilla. I probably won’t be able to fulfill any kink or role wishes you may have.

Hot

Despite my unconventionality and willingness to experiment, in the end I’m pretty default when it comes down to sex and flirting. I LOVE foreplay and flirting, more than sex itself. Touch me, hold eye contact, smile – any quick search on the psychology of attraction will yield you results that work flawlessly on me. Make pro-active moves on me for extra points.

I am logical, rational and philosophical. I adore conversations of depth where we can really chow down for hours on a topic.

Show me your passions. Tell me what drives you. Share with me your goals. I love to see your lust for life.

I love – LOVE – gentle caresses over my body. Think how good it feels for a dog to have a tummy rub. Oh yes… tummy rub. 🙂

Links

Of course, I have a profile on okcupid.

If you speak German, you can also find me in JoyClub.

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