Top 10 Mono-Normative Things Poly People Hear


Sometimes I get questions or statements (mostly from well-meaning people) about polyamory that comes straight from the mono-normative background, carrying with it the baggage of assumptions that anything that is not monogamy is bad. When I get these, turning it around to re-frame it in terms of monoamory often highlights how silly they really are. Without the background of assumptions, the same questions and statements sound quite ridiculous. This highlights that these statements don’t have merit.

I asked around the Interwebs for your most common questions/statements and here are the top 10. I decided to address them in a lighthearted way. Let the memes roll…

10. Aren’t you being used?

used

Monogamy is no protection against being used.

9. Do you sleep with their spouse too?

sleep-with-all

You don’t have to be friends with all of your friends’ friends.

 8. Won’t having multiple parents harm children?

multiple-parents

By this logic, single parents (or perhaps orphans) are the best family model for children.

 7. When should you tell your children about polyamory?

tell-children

If they’re ready to understand monogamy, they’re ready to understand polyamory.

 6. You just want to f**k everyone in the room, right?

single

Any single monogamous person is to be feared for the same reason. They’re “available.”

5. So, you don’t have REAL relationships then.

imaginary-relationship

Even if a relationship is irrational or complex, it’s still real.

 4. You’re just afraid of commitment.

afraid-of-commitment

Committing to more than one person might actually take more effort.

 3. I’m too jealous to do polyamory.

no-jealousy

Monogamy is no shield against jealousy.

 2. I know someone who tried polyamory and it exploded.

failed-relationship

Monogamy itself is not to blame for all failed monogamous relationships.

 1. You just haven’t found the right person yet.

monogamy-meme

 

The number one… Right back at ya.

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3 Comments Add yours

  1. You haven’t met the right guy. I hate that one. The “right” guy for me will also be poly.

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    1. polyhydra says:

      Definitely. It was the most common one by far.
      I started using that response ages ago and finally made a meme photo out of it.

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  2. Thomas says:

    Actually, complex numbers is not a subset of real numbers

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